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Slut Wife

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Call me Hotwife. Call me a hot bitch even. Just don’t call me a Slut Wife.

I get that the ‘S’ word is used for sexual effect, and no malice is intended but I personally don’t like it. Possibly, I’m being a little precious and holding on to stigmas from a bygone era. Whatever the reason, ‘slut’ just doesn’t connote anything positive to me, at least not in the bedroom and certainly not when a man uses the word.

Slut Wife

I love that we women have started taking ownership of the word in the face of slut-shaming and victim blaming. Women playfully call each other sluts for celebrating their sexuality and acting on their sexual appetite. The world will be a better place when young girls don’t have to worry about being ‘good’ or ‘bad’, and when young boys don’t know or care about the difference.

However, when you drag that word back into a real sexual context, it irks me. It doesn’t sit well with me to bring back the negative, archaic connotations of the word slut to describe a woman who simply enjoys sex and with as many people as she chooses. I have no problem with the label Hotwife which I think champions a woman’s right to fuck who she wants, but Slut Wife seems to achieve the opposite. It reduces a woman back to being that ‘bad’ girl.

I accept that Slut Wife is perhaps intended to be an oxymoron; juxtaposing the immoral and moral. It was probably coined by men who get turned on by the Madonna/whore thing. Indeed, so many guys I’ve talked to have mentioned being aroused by my being a regular wife and mother but at the same time a very, very dirty bitch in the bedroom. If anything, the more mundane and wife-like my everyday lifestyle is, the hotter.

Anyway, I’m guilty of playing up to that stereotype. If I meet guys socially, I wear tight fitting clothes but things that don’t reveal too much skin. I behave properly and only give the slightest hint that I’m naughty. I like watching them dot the dots in their mind about what I’m really like in private.

But… if any guy refers to me as a Slut Wife will probably need to find a more tolerant shared wife to enjoy!

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