One of the biggest positives about Hotwifing is that the focus is squarely on female sexual desire. I can’t think of any other sexual dynamic that is as devoted to helping a woman explore her sexuality while her man’s sexual needs take the backseat (or the chaise longue for a comfortable viewing position). While a Stag gets fulfillment from her pleasure, it’s definitely the Hotwife who gets the lioness’ share of mind-blowing sex.
This brings me to write about maintaining a healthy balance in the Hotwifing dynamic. Sure, a Stag is a Stag because he loves seeing his Vixen get fucked sideways by a bevy of hung Bulls, but he needs to be in the mood too. If what a Stag felt or thought didn’t matter then he’d be a Cuckold, and Cuckolding has its own set of scales with which balance (or imbalance) is determined. It’s wrong to assume a Stag’s needs isn’t important.
The other week, we finally caught up with Dr D again after a couple of failed attempts to play. He was free on a specific morning one week so I asked my husband if it was OK to arrange playtime. Given I had a major cock binge the previous month, he wasn’t overly enthusiastic about it. Personally, I wasn’t really gagging for a threesome but I did have a thing for Dr D and wasn’t willing to risk missing the opportunity to fuck him again. I insisted on having him over.
The play session was fun. I wore latex stockings and managed to accommodate Dr D’s huge cock anally as we had wanted to do for so long. However, because I effectively put my needs ahead of my husband’s, it felt a little selfish. That isn’t to say that my husband didn’t enjoy the session, but I know he went through the motions a little. Clearly I wasn’t the only one who experienced cock fatigue and needed a break.
This confirmed one thing for me: I only truly enjoy being shared when my husband is fired up by the thought of another man devouring me. Not just supportive or merely ‘OK’ about it. Our Hotwifing adventures are hot only if we’re both equally in the mood. If my husband isn’t overwhelmingly up for it then I dial back my own desires. As much as I may want every orifice occupied, if my husband isn’t going to get a raging erection watching it, I won’t really enjoy it either.
So what does a Hotwife do when the other half of the sexy partnership isn’t feeling it? Resume normal life. Find enjoyment in each other. Our lives most definitely don’t revolve around my getting fucked by other men so it’s not hard to take a break. I’ll miss getting extra cock but that’s where self pleasure comes in handy and I have a massive stockpile of dirty memories to get myself off with. A bit of voluntary monogamy never hurts and certainly gets us excited about playing again when ready.
There’s a long summer ahead after all 😉