I hope this post doesn’t come off as a rant but I suppose I didn’t start it if not to get some things of my chest. By and large, I’ve had mostly favourable and very pleasurable experiences meeting single guys for fun. As far as Hotwives go, I am one with few complaints really. Yet, every now and then I feel the need to vent. I’ll share these Hotwife peeves so guys who are new to meeting a Hotwifing couple will know what not to do or say.
Read profiles carefully or you are wasting my time (and yours)
If you are planning on meeting women or Hotwives online, then try to read their dating site profile. Yes, there are pretty pictures that may distract you and a hard on makes it difficult to focus on words, but if you’re not on the same page, then it’s an erection wasted. Woman are pretty good at stating exactly what they want. If I have written that I am only interested in meeting men for threesomes (at least initially), then that’s exactly what I mean. I’ve lost count of the guys who write in without reading and end up surprised that I want a threesome. Ughhh!
“I’m so good at sex you won’t need another man”
And then we move on to guys who think they’re more than enough man for me. Apparently I just haven’t had their dicks yet but once I do, I won’t want any other. They must have been blessed with magical penises. I guess their ego can’t accept that it’s simply more the merrier for some women. As far as I’m concerned, there is no ‘I’ in ‘Team’ and pleasuring me is not an individual sport. I need guys who understand that Hotwives crave that delicious thrill of a new, extra cock. They don’t want a replacement, and nor do they want anything supposedly better. Just another cock. I guess some men find it hard to accept that they are not the cock. I can think of something to say about that, but I won’t.
Don’t try and change the Hotwife’s play parameters
One of the reasons why I prefer single guys who are experienced with couples is that they know where they stand. They know what their job is and don’t ask for more. They know how threesomes work and if they get some one-on-one time with me while my husband decides to disappear for a bit, they don’t take that as an invitation to hit me up for alone play later on. They. Just. Get. It. One lovely guy (who I only confirmed later hadn’t been with a couple before) seemed quite heartbroken that I wasn’t interested in his offer to cook me dinner, or for prolonged love-making sessions. Another guy, who intrigued me enough in spite of his lack of MFM experience, consistently asks me if I’d sneak out and fuck him. No. Just no. Certainly not until you’ve proved yourself worthy to bother getting a hall pass for!
If you want to get on and stay on a Hotwife’s good books then it’s really just a simple matter of understanding the dynamics of group sex and threesomes. Not all Hotwifing couples explore open play so it’s best to assume that you’re joining a couple, not just nailing the wife. At the end of the day, if you’re not sure, just ask. Be open-minded and willing to work with whatever rules a Hotwife has. Most of all, don’t bloody try and change those rules for her!