How Do I Meet Guys?

So how does this Hotwife meet guys?

In this era of selfies and sending emoji texts, it may come as no surprise that I mostly meet guys online. Other than being the most convenient way to scope them out, I like knowing that a single guy has the same agenda as me. If he’s on a hookup site looking for a Hotwife, then that’s one massive hurdle cleared.

Meet Guys
Me every Sunday morning, perusing guys. Or my likeness 🙂

Now, I am attractive but that doesn’t mean I have the moxie to go up to a random guy at a bar and suggest a three-way with him and my husband. I’d be game to try for a one-one-one hookup, but it’s a confident chick who can get a guy to lean on his wild side and join a threesome with complete strangers. Maybe one day 😉

I’ve come close to making some spontaneous threesomes happen in the past. When I was younger and more naive, we met a newly engaged couple while on holidays overseas. After a night of heavy drinking, we ended up with the young man back at our hotel room. His fiancee was happy to retire but encouraged him to stay on with us. Despite that, I just couldn’t cut someone else’s lawn and to this day, I’m not convinced he really was DTF. My husband just shakes his head whenever that episode comes up.

Then there was the hot German businessman when we visited Hong Kong. The expat drinking district of Lan Kwai Fong was awash with people blowing off some afterwork steam. A friend brought my husband and I there to take in the Bacchanalian atmosphere. I struck up a conversation with the said German who was pretty merry and gave me sufficient indication that he might want to get between my legs. Unfortunately our friend insisted that we leave LKF. Immediately. Needless to say I was annoyed about missing out on some hard and efficient German sex.

I would dearly love a spontaneous threesome to happen one day but as the above examples would suggest, being out of town seems to be a prerequisite. Perhaps it’s a case of naughty things happening when you’re not actively looking? We certainly don’t go out of our way to hookup while on holidays but it seems to be when the unexpected happens. Or in the case of R, when hot guys are on holidays!

Until the unexpected happens, I’m content to trawl online and see if someone catches my fancy. There is only one website I use which I refer to as The Site as I don’t have time to work more than one ! The same guys are often on all them as well as Tinder… I won’t mention which site I use as I don’t intend for this blog to be an promotional tool for dating websites. Let’s just say, The Site delivers for me.

Needless to say there are many men listed on The Site as interested in meeting couples or attached women, but you’d be surprised how small that pool gets when I eliminate those outside my preferred age range, those who are married or attached, those who can’t string two words together, and those who aren’t my type to be frank. If I had a lot of time on my hands I’d consider meeting guys in the flesh before dismissing them, but since I don’t, I rely on my process of elimination and choose from my little wading pool of eligible men. Poor me.

Currently I have about four guys who I’m keen to meet.I think I definitely have a type as they’re almost interchangeable with each other. I may give the squirt-fan a try again, but I can never resist the lure of new cock.


  1. Where do I begin? Thank you for sharing you’re pleasurable adventures. My husband and I are newbies, and we are excited for a hotwife experience. I recently read your post “hot stuff” you mentioned that you use a reliable website/app aka The Site. Can you please share? Thanks SO MUCH AGAIN! Can’t wait to keep reading.

    • Hi there! Thanks so much for commenting 🙂 I’m trying to write more newbie focussed stuff at the mo so hopefully they help! I’m also going to set up an area for a list of websites and Apps I use/d to meet men. Please visit again some time for updates. x

  2. Hi….I am new to being a hotwife. I have a lot of self confidence issues and I was raised very conservatively. I am trying to focus more on me. I am a mom of three and I stay at home. I am wondering how you keep up your appearance, you look amazing, I would love to know what you do to look so wonderful. I am turning 30 and trying to become healthier for myself as well as my family. This lifestyle seems to be working for me and my husband but I want to help me feel better about being myself too. Any advice is well appreciated. Thanks

    • Hi Lisa! Sorry for the late reply. I hope you’ve had some fun experiences so far? Thanks for your comments. It can be a struggle to stay in shape these days as being in my 40s is definitely different to being in my 30s (nevermind 20s). I’m involved in regular sports which I can manage as my children are older, but if you’re a mum of smaller kids with little opportunity to stay at home, then no stress. There are many ways to stay in shape at home. Check out the many Apps available these days for fitness. You want a combination of cardio and strength training. Start putting on some muscle. You’ll never bulk up nearly as much as men can but the more muscle you can put on in your 30s, the better off you will be in your 40s and 50s. Resistance bands are awesome for a good work out at home. It’s definitely important to feel good about yourself so getting fit (nevermind your size, shape or weight) will make your Hotwifing experiences more positive. Enjoy! x

  3. Excellent site and information. Would really like to learn The Site you use as others have asked. I saw several places where you said you’d put together a list but haven’t been able to find it. Please help. Thank you.

  4. […] Later that night, BD was seemingly still excited about the date but by the next day, I noticed that he was discernibly reserved. I’m not one to harangue a guy for attention but you just know when you’re being avoided. Finally, I cut to the chase and put the hard word on him: “Are you ready to play?”. I could see he read the message but he never replied. I haven’t heard from him since, even though he’s still lurking on The Site. […]

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